Talk to me!

I'm sitting in the university library. I came here to write my whole master's thesis, or at least a few pages. I'm in the reading room, there is a lot of people, everyone is whispering to each other, and I already know that my plans to write anything are ruined because I can not focus on anything else but only on that people irritate me with their conversations. So I'm sitting and watching what's going on around me and I came to a conclusion - it is strange that when talking is forbidden in places like library, everyone finds a million topics to talk about, and when there is time for conversation, everyone is sitting with their noses on the phone and they do not want to have a real conversation with their companion. How is this possible? Is not this the paradox of today's life?
I see more and more often a scene like this - a group of friends is sitting in a cafe. Everyone with phones in their hands, busy chatting with friends on Facebook. There is no talk. There is silence. Sometimes even frightening, because there is no interaction between them. Where does it come from? Being always online has become terrifyingly popular. What's worse - people see nothing wrong with it. Strongly annoyed by my observations, I decided to check what the internet says about it. And how frightened I was when I found out that this phenomenon became so popular that in 2012 the scientists gave the name on it "phubbing". It is defined as the behavior of playing with mobile phones and ignoring people with whom you are staying. The term "phubbing" was created after combining two English words: "phone", meaning telephone, and "snub", meaning ignore, disregard.
Internet and technology distracts us and does not allow us to focus, we feel the need to be connected to the network 24/7 and we are afraid that we will miss something when we are not online. Our interpersonal relationships become more and more virtual because it is easier to socialize on the web, it is less demanding - we can talk to several people at the same time, sitting even in pajamas. At the same time, we participate in online and offline life. We don't care about real relations and I don't know what should I do with this facts. I only know that it makes me really sad.

The perfect moment

I often hear my friends who say that they will do something later because now it's not the right moment. So when is it?
There is a quote: do not wait for the perfect moment, choose the moment and make it perfect.
We imagine that someday, when we are wiser, richer, more experienced and have more time then we will do something, because now is not the right time for it.
Usually this does not happen. Why? Not because we can not do it, but because the world is trying to convince us that we are still not wise enough, old, rich, experienced and we should not lean out. So we are waiting for the perfect moment while, we can decide every day that this is the moment. Not after graduation, not when we get a good job, not when we're rich, right now is the time to try something, something that you've been thinking about for a long time, but something, some strange and unnecessary thought makes that you not did it yet.
Because what will happen if you can not handle it? I know what will happen - nothing. It will not work, that's all. It happens in life. You will get up and go on. People are so afraid of failure that they do not even think about why this failure is so terrible. In most cases it is not, it failed, that's all. You can try again, richer with experience. I think that it is better to regret that something has happened than to think about how it could be if we would do it.
So I stopped waiting and created the perfect moment, and you? Are you still waiting or maybe  you've already created the perfect moment?  ;)

What's now?

Recently, I talked with my friend about the master's defence, which impend so fast.
My friend sighed loudly and said to me:
- I do not know what to do after this studies, what I should do with my life!
I do not know either. The end of education is strange. There was always another step in education, after primary school there was secondary school and after that high school, and now? Now I feel like a small child who lost in a crowd and does not know what to do. 
Regardless of whether you have plans for life or not  the end of education always raises anxiety and a feel in which you are wondering what you really want from life and what you have to do at the moment. Watch all the series? Go on holiday? Send a CV? What happens when the whole period of life ends? What happens next, when the exams and complaints about lecturers are over? What happens when there is no lecture to go (or not) or classes that organize the course of the day? The closer to master's defence, the more I feel like standing in a big field with a hundred roads and I did not know which one is the right one. Or is this path that I initially chose to be what I dreamed about?
And why something that should be just a formality and just the end of another thing in life grow in my head to the rank of the event of the year and make me have so many thoughts in my head?
I have no idea, but I hope that life will lead me in the right direction.

Smile! Why? Because you can!

If anyone asked me about an event in my life in which I was the happiest, I would not be able to give one particular situation. I remember many moments when my eyes were smiling more than my lips. And these were the best moments in my life, and at the same time the most trivial.
There is a belief that true happiness comes to us on the day of the wedding, when you find out that you have passed an important exam or got a great job while the best moments of life are hidden in ordinary things - in the time spent with friends or in eaten chocolate cake. I remember a trip to one of the Polish peaks on a beautiful July day, I listened to birds singing and enjoyed the beautiful landscapes that passed along the way. I also remember how much I was laughing, almost to tears when I was talking with my friend, or how happy I was when my aunt I had not seen for a very long time visited me. These ordinary things mean much more than traveling to a tropical country or buying a new car. I once heard that a smile is a curve that straightens everything and it is true.
Therefore, instead of waking up thinking about how hard a day is waiting for us, let's smile and be curious about what's amazing is going to happen! ;)

Role models, do we need them?

Recently, I read an article about people who are role models. According to the article, each of us needs such a person, a person whom we can admire and on which we can model ourselves. Especially young people need someone from whom they can get inspiration and who they can follow.

Currently, for many young people the role models are youtubers, bloggers and other people who are known from the Internet. There is nothing wrong with that, in the end each of us is different and is looking for other values, and what's helpful the Internet reduces the distance between famous people and their fans. It causes that such a person is not perceived as unavailable, but often as a friend because of frequent presence in social media.

Reading the article, I began to wonder if we all need a role model? After thinking, I came to the conclusion that yes, we all need someone who will show us the path we want to follow. However, it does not have to be a well-known person who everyone admire. For me, the role model is my 92-year-old grandfather, whom I admire and from which I draw inspiration every day. His words drives me to act, to fulfill my dreams and enjoy life. I love to listen to his stories, because thanks to them I can imagine what life was like 50 or 70 years ago. I am glad that I have such a wonderful person as my grandfather is and I hope that everyone are as lucky as I am.

The film which moved me

Recently during English classes we watched Suffragette movie. The movie is about women without whom history would have gone differently. These women, called suffragettes, demanded electoral, moral and civic rights. They were publicly ignored and ridiculed, later recognized by the authorities as a danger for the world. They were beaten and imprisoned for demanding their rights. Their struggle changed the history of the twentieth century, beginning with emancipation movements and social changes.
This movie made such a huge impression on me, that I thought about what I had seen a long time later. I remember especially the scene in which the husband turns his wife out of the house and forbids seeing his son because he is the care provider by law and she has no rights. After watching this scene, I realized how little knowledge I had so far in this topic. This movie made me realize how much I owe to these amazing women. Until now, I can't believe that even a hundred years ago, women not only didn't have the right to vote, but they didn't even have the right to own children. They had no chance but they didn't give up and finally won. They won for their daughters, granddaughters and great-grand-daughters because they wanted better life for them and what I want to say is only that I'm really greatful for it.

Feeling lost in a big world

When I was young, I thought that the world is huge and I am only a small part of it in which I can easily get lost. Now, at the age of 24, I experience this loss more than ever before, all thanks to the easy access to everything that surrounds me. The present world is flooding us with thousands of information from each side - beautiful pictures, perfect life of other people, where everything is as it should be. We glance through profiles on instagram and facebook, watch videos on youtube and unwittingly we are bow to the peer pressure, we want to live like people who we admire, to meet the expectations of parents, teachers and colleaques. In this all we forget about ourselves and our dreams, about the fact that not everyone has to be a businessman and drive a Mercedes, sometimes it's enough to do what one likes and do not follow blindly what the media show, because they create a world that does not exist, while reality is more complex.